Confidently Defend Life in a New Era

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The most requested book that gives you proven tools to confidently and effectively change hearts on abortion.

What do I say when abortion and rape come up?

What about "My Body, My Choice"? When should I avoid politics?

From "forced birth" to gender to "shout your abortion", much has changed since abortion was legalized in 1973, yet it remains the most controversial issue of our time. What to Say When equips you with proven approaches from the front-lines to help you:

  • Know exactly what to say (and not say) when abortion comes up
  • Balance converting hearts vs. winning arguments
  • Navigate the changing and bizarre new ways abortion is promoted
  • Go on offense and stay on topic when defending life


What people are saying

What To Say When is an indispensable tool. It will not only give you a clearer grasp of your own arguments, but prepare you to meet and rebut every conceivable pro-abortion talking point.

Matt Walsh

The Daily Wire - from the foreword to the book

A great resource for all of us who want to present our pro-life views in a reasoned, sensible manner. They show how to keep the main thing the main thing. You’ll want to read this helpful book again and again.

Jim Daly

President, Focus on the Family

It wasn’t that long ago that abortion supporters stated their goal of ‘safe, legal, and rare’. Now it’s ‘Shout your abortion!’. We are indebted once again to 40 Days for Life for this new book. It gives us all practical advice on how to discuss this topic with friends, neighbors, family, and even those who disagree with us. A must read!

Bishop Joseph L. Coffey

Archdiocese for the Military Services

A clear, practical guide that walks readers through the current landscape and leaves them feeling confident in ending abortion.

Lila Rose

President and Founder of Live Action

I have read many books about pro life apologetics. This is the most insightful, easy to digest and entertaining book that I have encountered on the topic. I believe that reading this book will superpower pro life individuals to speak kindly and respectfully with authority and love on every abortion related topic.

Dr. Monique Ruberu

OBGYN, Napro Technology, Pro-Life Speaker

I believe this text will prove to be essential reading for all who hold life sacred and are seeking ways to speak this truth clearly and boldly. Let us heed this message and go about the business of changing the world one heart at a time.

Bishop Joseph Strickland

Diocese of Tyler

Meet Shawn Carney

SHAWN CARNEY is the co-founder, CEO, and President of 40 Days for Life. He is the bestselling author of three books including The Beginning of the End of Abortion and To the Heart of the Matter and is depicted in the major-motion picture, Unplanned. Shawn is one of the most sought-after pro-life speakers today and his work has been featured in hundreds of media outlets including NBC News, Fox News, BBC, The Glenn Beck Show, MSNBC, The Washington Post, The Guardian, and USA Today. He and his wife Marilisa live in Texas with their eight children. 

Meet Steve Karlen

STEVE KARLEN is the campaign director for 40 Days for Life and author of This is When We Begin to Fight. Steve is the editor of DAY 41 Magazine and co-host of the 40 Days for Life podcast. Steve has spoken on pro-life issues in all 50 states and his work has been featured in media including American Family Radio, EWTN, Relevant Radio, and CBN. He lives in Wisconsin with his wife Laura and their five children.